The basic problem for most people is that we do not pay attention to the name when the person is introduced. Usually we are thinking of what we are going to say or some other aspect of the situation and we miss the name. So the first rule to remember people’s names is to pay attention when we are introduced or first hear the name. It is good to repeat the person’s name when you are introduced. Most people will be flattered when you express interest in their name. So if you ask a question about it, you will both flatter the person and strengthen your memory. By now you know that to remember something you need to make it meaningful. . Some names are inherently meaningful, for example, Rose, Temple, Church, Carpenter. Take advantage of this. You also know that forming mental pictures or images enhance memorability. So you could imagine the individual holding a rose, going into a temple, going into a church, or working as a carpenter. Concentrate on the sound rather than the spelling of the name. Consider the following names and how easy it is to form a mental image of them: Taylor, Cook, Barber, Skinner, Glazer, Pacer, Blocker, Fisher, Shepherd, Potter, Mayer, Forman, Judge, King, Noble, Winter, Sommer, Spring, Snow, Rains, Bagel, Crown, Bridges, Turner, Brown, Miller, Coyne, Glass, Bell, Tucker, Katz, Bolling, Frett, Powers, Freed, Hart, Stamp, Walker, Graves, Berry, Gill, Storm, Rich, Post, Marsh, Moore, Roper, Hyde, Prince, Park, Price, Holliday, Colt, Rodes, Fawcett, Holland, Bush, Bushman, Martini, Land, Baker, Brooks, Porter, Love, Mailer, Tanner, Baron, Ashe, Banks, Allwood, Tower, Crater, Fountain, Hedges, Bloom, Starr, Burr, Fairweather, Feather, Lemmon, Cobb, Roach, Cruz, Plummer, Trapper, Bateman, Gates, Bellow, Rivers, Keyes, Bishop, Goldwater, Ford, Booth, Foote, Trout, Gallup, Carver, Potts, March, Bolt, Garland, Byer, Angel, Farmer, Brewer, Webb, Dancer, Flagg, Bowler, Spinner, Nichols, Bowes, Silver, Gold, Frank, Marshall, Lane, Boyle, Knot, Teller, Steel, Bacon, Klapper, Pullman, Archer, and Kane. There are many more, these are just some examples. Some other names can be made more memorable with a little elaboration. Smith, a common name, is one that is especially embarrassing to forget. Smith can easily be elaborated to blacksmith. Marriott, Hilton, and Hyatt are also hotel names so you can form a specific image for each hotel. See if the sound of the name can be converted into an image that you can then combine with the image of the person or certain features on a person’s face.
Another technique is to see if the name is shared by someone who is famous.
For example, if the name was Hooper, you could think of the actor, Dennis Hooper. Given all the famous and historical people there are, this provides a rich source of remember names. Consider the following names: Winfrey (Oprah), De Niro (Robert), Spears (Britney), Hughes (Howard), Kidman (Nicole), Brokaw (Tom), Parton (Dolly), Picasso (Pablo), Armstrong (Louis), Beethoven (Ludwig Von), Mozart (Wolfgang), Warhol (Andy), Hoffman (Dustin), Bancroft (Ann), Brooks (Mel), Allen ( Woody), Gable (Clark), Cooper (Jackie), Marx (Groucho, or Chico, or Harpo), Streep (Meryl), Redford (Robert), Reiner (Carl or Rob), Seinfield (Jerry), Bonds (Barry), Castro (Fidel), Lee (Robert E), Aaron (Hank), Williams (Ted), Mantle (Mickey), Jeter (Derek), Rodriguez (Alex), Torre (Joe), and Sinatra (Frank). Former Presidents can also be used, Clinton, Bush, Reagan, Carter, Ford, Nixon, Eisenhower, Truman, Roosevelt (Franklin or Teddy), Lincoln, Washington. They key here is that you be able to form a clear image of the former President or any famous person you are using to help you remember the name. You form an image of the person you are trying to remember with the famous person sharing the same name. There is no need to match for sex or age, all you need to is to form an image so that when you see the person, it triggers the image and you are able to recall the name. Do not overlook the obvious. If the name is meaningful, associate the person with an image of the sound of the name. If the person shares a famous name, form an image of the person interacting with the famous personage.
Still, there will be many names that are new and strange and do not immediately suggest an image. These names require a little work in recoding the sound of the name so that a meaningful image can be formed. Consider the recodings for the following names:
Dembowski a donkey (Dem for Democrat) with a bow on a ski
Rudolph the red nosed reindeer
Wellington imagine beef Wellington if you can’t imagine the Duke
Gibbons imagine primates playing
Rossitter someone sitting on roses
Lewyckyj ( pronounced loo wit ski) someone in the lou drinking whiskey wearing skis
Bordelais a lay of flowers placed on a border
Lembo someone dancing the limbo
Harrington someone issue a harangue from a ton of steel
Leifester someone lying faster and faster
Now try generating your own images based on the sounds of the following names:
If you had problems with any of the above, here are some suggestions
Altman an old man
Caldwell a cold well
Eckstein ink making a stain
Forbes four bees
Hamilton hammering a ton
Ingram pouring ink on a ram
Lieberman a man laboring, a labor man (union organizer?)
Nugent a new gent (a new gentleman to whom you have been introduced)
Pomerantz a palm tree surrounded by aunts
Zimmer a pot simmering
Kim imagine your next of Kin with M&Ms
Ku image a coup
Yu imagine a large letter “U”
Rodriguez picture a rod reeking of gas
Lopez picture someone who lopes
However remembering names is only part of the problem. The name usually needs to be associated with a face. Linking the mnemonic to an image of the individual will work, if you can do it. Another technique that was advocated by the famous mnemonist Harry Lorayne was to link the mnemonic to something conspicuous or salient in the person’s face.
Suppose you meet a lady with a broad nose named Hamilton. You could form a mental picture of someone hammering a ton on her nose.
Suppose a Mr. Forbes has a distinctive hairline. You could imaging four bees coming out of his hairline.
You encounter a Mr. Zimmer whose most distinguishing feature is a deep indentation from the center of his nose to the center of his upper lip (this is called a philtrum). You could form a mental picture of a pot simmering in this indentation (philtrum).
Let’s consider a Mr. Ingram next. Perhaps the most distinctive features on his face are his large, bushy eyebrows. You can imagine a ram pouring ink on his eyebrows.
Now consider Ms. Lembo. She has an upswept hairdo. You could imagine someone doing the limbo on the top of her hairdo.
Next consider Ms. Coldwell. She has a tunnel-like, or inverted V-shaped hairline. You could form a picture of some drawing water from a cold well in this tunnel.
Now consider Mr Kim. You can picture in his mouth his next of kin eating M&Ms.
Notice Ms. Ku’s hair. You can imagine a coup taking place in her hair.
Here is Ms. Yu. You can imagine large letter “”U’s” placed around her hair.
This is Mr. Rodriguez. You can imagine a rod reeking of gas coming out of his nose.
This is Ms. Lopes. You can imagine someone loping across her eyes.
The more information you can associate with the person, the better the overall memory. So what is important about the person? Knowing the occupation or the position someone holds is important. Recoding and forming images to remember are not always necessary. Of course, you can form an image of this person performing her job it you find this helpful. Knowing the person’s hobbies and interests is another plus. Again, you can form images of the person with her hobbies and interests if you find this helpful. Knowing if the person is married and how many children, and of what kind and ages these children are good things to know. If you find images helpful here, fine. But the very act of devoting the time and attention to remember this information will facilitate memory. Not only will this facilitate memory, but it will also facilitate your relationships. Being able to recall this information and to work it into the conversation demonstrates to the individual that you both know and care about them.
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