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November 2, 2019

This post is the first in a series of posts based on the book by doreen dodgen-magee titled “DEVICED: Balancing Life and Technology in a Digital World.” More properly she is Dr. doreen dodgen-magee. She has a PsyD. and is a psychologist with a private practice in Portland, Oregon. The first part of the book is titled “How Devices are Impacting Us.” Dr. dodgen-magee begins, “In the recent past, the acronym ‘IRL’ has come to stand for the phrase ‘in real life.’ It refers to a person’s non-digitally based, fully analog, three dimensional, in-one’s own-and-actual self.’ Although the acronym isn’t that old, I think it’s time for retirement.” The reason being that the reality is that our digital and embodied lives come together to create one real, whole life—a real life that includes both. Friends exist in both embodied and digital spaces; they indulge our clans, classmates, and support groups—even though we may never meet in what used to be called our ‘real lives.’ She writes, “We buy physical items in virtual shops, we learn important lessons and gain actual skills in digital spaces, and we carry in our pockets virtual assistants that often know us better than our embodied friends; when these assistants fail, we feel real frustration. All of life, included that lived in the digital domain, is real.

Technology provides the ambient background noise of everyday life. For most people, regardless of personal choice, technology has come to create an ambient background noise that is inescapable, or escapable only with great effort. By using technology we are investing a part of our physical lives in digital spaces and making it such that, regardless of within which one an action happens, all our experiences are part of our “real lives.”

Dr. dodgen-magee writes, “I frequently think of the psychological concept of ‘leaking,’ when I consider these realities. Leaking, as I use it here, involves syphoning off just enough internal psychic pressure to make us comfortable staying exactly where we are instead of moving toward newness and growth.”

The goal of the tech industry in most things digital is to offer us both convenience and comfort. In optimal doses they help us and allow us to be productive, content, and available to life. However, if we exist in exclusively convenient and comfortable spaces, we lose appropriate motivation to undertake the kinds of risks and experiences that keep us growing and maturing. Too much of convenience and comfort cause us to lose our edge. We stop feeling the nudge to persist and engage meaningfully. We begin to feel entitled and bored in the worst ways, pursuing hedonistic and narcissistic pleasure and validation. But when these conveniences are engaged to allow ourselves time to pursue experiences that will help us grow, benefit person-kind, and expand our horizons, this is good. We need to find the fine-line balance where we feel convenience and comfortable enough without becoming too much so.

So that is the objective of this book to find the balance between life and technology in a digital world.