Posts Tagged ‘Pride’

Self-affirmation and Perseverance

June 24, 2020

In the very first post in the series of posts on the book Emotional Success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride HM expressed his misgivings about the term pride. Pride has too many negative connotations, one being that it is the first of the seven deadly sins. It is not the best term. The best term is self-affirmation. It avoids all the negative connotations of pride.

The chapter on pride is titled Pride and Perseverance. It should have been titled self-affirmation and perseverance. A proud person might avoid certain situations because that person might feel that the outcome might hurt his pride. But self-affirmation avoids that situation. Self-affirmation motivates one to confront problems and challenges. Self-affirmation leads to perseverance and it is perseverance that leads to success.

It is wrong to tell anyone that all they need is the will to succeed. Success requires perseverance. It is also important that there are many factors involved in success, and one of those factors is luck. So it is a crime to argue that success is guaranteed.

But there is much research indicating that most all of us can accomplish much more than we think we can, that we have much more potential than we realize. There is much research proving this point. Enter “growth mindsets” into the search block at healthymemory.wordpress.com to read just some of this research. Growth mindsets foster perseverance.

An Early 4th of July Post

June 30, 2013

In the United States the 4th of July is a holiday celebrating its Declaration of Independence. This holiday is certainly warranted, and I am quite pleased with what this declaration started. Unfortunately, the holiday is spoiled for me by those who use it to declare that the United States is the greatest country in the world. First of all, there are facts that would put this claim in dispute. For example, although the United States has, by far, the most expensive medical costs in the world, its health statistics are mediocre or worse. The way the system works is that Americans either receive inadequate medical care, or too much in medical care in the way of over-medication and unnecessary surgery. For a free country, the United States has the highest incarceration rate according to the Wikipedia (716 per 100,000 population). It is possible that this claim is unwarranted as there are no statistics for North Korea.

However, even if the United States were the best country in the world, we Americans should not be overcome with hubris and think of ourselves as living in the best country in the world. Remember, or revisit, the healthymemory blog post “Self-Affirmation Rather than Self-Esteem.” In the 1980s there was a big push in psychology regarding the benefits of self-esteem. Unfortunately, programs boosting self-esteem were found wanting. It has been found that it is self-affirmation rather than self-esteem that is beneficial. Here is the distinction. Self-affirmation means that you have confidence that you can accomplish what needs to be done, that you can improve yourself. You are not afraid of failure, and should you fail you know you can succeed as long as you persist in your efforts. However, if you have high self-esteem, you will likely not perceive the need to improve yourself. Moreover, should you fail, that damages your self-esteem

What pertains to individuals also pertains to countries. Countries that think they are the best or great, are likely not to see the need to improve. Consequently, they will neither improve, nor address their problems. Rather, they are likely to embrace outdated ideologies. However, countries who see a need to improve, even should they already be the best, will pursue efforts to change and grow. In today’s dynamic world, the need to change and grow is more imperative than ever.

When people say they are proud to be an American, I wonder if they remember that pride is one of the seven deadly sins. “Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall” Proverbs 16:18.

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